Today over lunch, I was discussing my eyes with my mom and telling her about adults who haven’t had surgeries and are moving faster than I am with therapy. She reminded me that American doctors were in shock that I hadn’t been operated on yet when I came to the US at the age of 3 with my wandering eyes. They laughed at the Soviet system that left me looking so weird. So my parents agreed to my first surgery. They were operating with insufficient information because the option of binocular vision therapy was not even offered.
Now as an adult who has read extensively about vision therapy, I know VT exists. But my parents had no clue about it when I got my surgeries at ages 3 and 17. I was the one who asked for the surgery at 17 to straighten out my wandering eye.
I feel no regret for having been under the knife because having straight-looking eyes for the last 1/2 of my life has been a blessing. No more weird looks from people wondering which eye to look at. Most importantly, I don’t feel like a reject.
But I am very aware that those two operations are making my VT progress difficult and slow.
Parents of young children reading this, consider your children lucky. You are giving your kid(s) the chance to see straight and in 3D and not have to go through the Catch 22 of those of us doing VT as an adult. Those who didn’t have surgery, may have experienced severe humiliation and social isolation because of their wandering eyes. Now, they have an easier time than I do with vision therapy.