In 1992, I saw the movie, Damage with Jeremy Irons and Juliette Binoche, the story is about a British Parliament member having an affair with his son’s girlfriend. The plot aside, what I recall from the movie is when Binoche tells Irons that they can both understand each other because they are both “damaged”.
This scene from the movie came to me recently as I was telling the same friend I wrote about in May, who had left me incensed when he invited me to a 3D movie, why I think he doesn’t get why I am so hurt when people don’t understand why VT is so important to me. I told him that maybe only someone who is also like me, who has sacrificed everything for something (VT) and who has not reached their goal can fathom my frustration. Stereoptic vision is the only thing in my life which I have dreamed of, worked harder than anything else to achieve and have not yet attained after four arduous years of exercises, a depleting bank account and lost friendships. One doesn’t need to be an adult strabismic to empathize. But I think another hard working overachiever who has not reached their goals can feel my pain and not try to appease me by telling me about all of my other accomplishments in life.
We’re not “damaged” like the characters in the film, but we share something in common and that’s what can make us “get” each other. The problem is that I haven’t met anyone else like me yet!